Self-deception. “Are you lying to yourself?”

“Are you lying to yourself?”

Don’t respond too quickly. Your growth relies on the depth of your self-examination.

I’ll pose the question again. “Are you lying to yourself?”

Like any honest writer, preacher, or teacher with a message, the first recipient is the messenger.

I’m a liar. I lie to myself and for various reasons. To name a few, to uphold an image, avoid doing what’s required, delay pain, and sleep better at night.

If you consider yourself a visionary, like to “finesse,” and are more concerned about your reputation than character, you may be a liar too.

I know. Being called a liar is uncomfortable. It’s why we make up terms like “little white lie.” They invite self-righteousness.

But this is a warning shot. Because while our short-term reality may skew to the lies we tell ourselves. Our reality gets closer to the truth of who we are over the long hall, so if your vision of the future is greater than your current circumstance, hed this warning.‍

Why self-deception?

Psychologists say self-deception involves strong psychological forces that keep us from acknowledging a threatening truth about ourselves. We feel an uncomfortable tension when who we…