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What is Self Disclosure?

Self-disclosure is the communication process by which one person reveals information about themself to another. And it’s the primary means by which we increase the intimacy of a relationship.

Research has found:

  • We like people more after we disclose to them.
  • We disclose more to people we already like.

In essence, there is a strong connection between self-disclosure and likability. Also worth noting, you damage trust when someone discloses information to you, and you don’t reciprocate. …

Buckle up; the next 12 months will be a roller coaster

Dear graduating college class of 2021, congratulations! Despite all that’s occurred over the past year and a half, you graduated. And now you’re transitioning into the next chapter of your life, which for many of you, means entering the workforce.

Well, buckle up; the next 12 months will be a roller coaster. Whether it’s moving to a new city, moving back home with your parents, dealing with post-college depression, landing your first job, or adjusting to working a 9-to-5, you will endure some challenges.

Today, I want to address a specific group of you, my black college graduates from PWIs…

“Are you lying to yourself?”

Don’t respond too quickly. Your growth relies on the depth of your self-examination.

I’ll pose the question again. “Are you lying to yourself?”

Like any honest writer, preacher, or teacher with a message, the first recipient is the messenger.

I’m a liar. I lie to myself and for various reasons. To name a few, to uphold an image, avoid doing what’s required, delay pain, and sleep better at night.

If you consider yourself a visionary, like to “finesse,” and are more concerned about your reputation than character, you may be a liar too.

I know…

Today, this law is often oversimplified and has become interchangeable with cliches like “you eat what you kill.”

The law of reaping and sowing is the most powerful natural law. While all other principles add and subtract, when applied correctly, it multiplies. But what does this law mean? And how does someone benefits from what it has to offer?

Let’s start with what it’s not. Today, the law of reaping and sowing is often oversimplified and has become interchangeable with cliches like "you eat what you kill.” No surprise, given that only 1.3% …


Re-Entry, Weight, All the Way Down, and Expansion. Season 4 is off to an eventful start for the show’s protagonist Franklin Saint.

While times elapsed, the effects of Season 3 still linger. Love, life’s battlefield, has left its two participants in despair. Mel, now in Atlanta with her Aunt, still mourns the loss of her father. And Franklin, who’s making strides in his physical recovery. Has yet to heal from the emotional turmoil that accompanies a near-death experience.

The trauma of almost being killed by the woman he loves remains. The once self-assured leader is…

This statement meant to encourage audience members to ask thoughtful questions also holds true for the questions we ask ourselves. Over time, I’ve come to realize, the better the questions I ask of myself, the better I respond to life and its ever-continuing obstacles.

The adversity we all endured in 2020 raised some challenging questions. One being, whose responsibility is it to make me feel comfortable in a new or different environment. Is life meant to be experienced as a McDonald’s customer or a guest in someone’s home?

From studying abroad in Paris to interviewing developers across Africa, I’ve had…

Blind Spot:

  1. an area to the side and slightly behind a driver’s field of vision that is not reflected in the vehicle’s rearview mirror.

Currently, I drive a Honda Accord, a sedan, but every so often, I drive my dad’s Honda Pilot, a midsize family SUV.

What I enjoy most about SUVs is their visibility. In my Honda Accord, my vision is often limited by the car in front of me, but in the Pilot, I can see miles ahead. …

Africa is the future. Six out of ten of the world’s fastest-growing economies, markets in the process of diversifying from their commodity-driven past, are on the continent of Africa.

With a current population of around 1.2 billion that’s projected to reach 1.7 billion by 2030, talent is abundant. Home to some of the fastest-growing consumer markets in the world where household consumption is predicted to reach $2.5 trillion by 2030, demand is experiencing exponential growth.

A past marked by colonialism and exploitation, African nations are hoping for a brighter, more prosperous future. What many leaders believe requires fostering new relationships…


Saying the week of George Floyd’s death was heavy would be an understatement.

As the world watched yet another black man lose his life, I became overwhelmed with a range of emotions. The side effect, a lack of productivity.

My “I need a black day” to process this trauma turned into a week.

I spent my days scrolling on social media and binge-watching Avatar: The Last Airbender. My schedule consisted of the deadly combination of embracing America’s harsh reality and finding ways to escape it.

Usually, I am a self-motivated individual with a drive that allows me to transcend…

In the midst of a global pandemic, with the world on pause, businesses shut down, some for good, unemployment through the roof, and many of the employed receiving pay cuts or overwhelming increases in their workload. Culture is suggesting that the best use of our time is starting a business or a new side hustle.

While expanding your sources of income is great, especially if it’s a venture, you’ve wanted to get off the ground for some time. …

Nathan Hastings-Spaine

Built In Africa | Boss Your Life Up Campaign | Capo Agency | Black Millennial sharing his journey.

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